Essence of socialization toward self development

A. Okhi Irawan Wiryanatakusumah

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Socialization is one way to learn the culture and way of life of one or more social systems. Elkin indicates the natural socialization process as learning and socialization, including deepening of the patterns, values, and feelings. Socialization process in the case of a child, he was on ideally not only know what to expect themselves and behave according to that cool them, he also knows this is the path offered to him to think and behave. Elkin further explain the term socialization by itself shows the path of learning how things are built and which continues as a group to socialize immigrants into the life of socio-cultural context of his new country; life armed with the rules of the man of the country or as an insurance agent into patterns managerial enterprise and work.
In a more limited scale of the adjustment process of students into schools and classrooms a portrait of the socialization process. The young man entered the school on his first day emotionally disturbed and insecure. At level learners childhood he might cry, if joined, and in particular the role will become more aggressive. Every learner has the ability in the role of what is expected of him or for myself or the environment. Learners should share their identity with others. Gradually be exposed to the process of learning what is expected of him in his role as a student compared to its role as a child. When two-way dialogical communication process positive then he is automatically acceptable in a group, make friends, and began to learn his peers. Socialization process has begun.
Bonner stated the role of development is a sign of humans as social beings who can be sociable when it managed to take a role or duty of another person or group. He further stated that since the patterns of single individuals should take a role to play other people, the role of behavior give someone the opportunity to accept and be accepted by the other. The role of behavior can only be done in a group. The group presents a variety of situations in which every person can display their skills, train the skills, and began to recognize a person any service which he might have and the group intends to recognize and appreciate. The harmony of the group depends on the actions whether size/ good actions and intentions of every individual to play a role in ways that can be accepted by other individuals to play a role in success.

VARIATION IN SOCIALIZATION
The socialization process can be assumed as a continuum or continuity. In one striking difference whether someone might be able to customize and socialize that they was not challenged by the development of a new relationship and the problems and possibly suffering from boredom presence. He may even be supported by a person and his involvement with them. Life may be balanced but can only hold less prominent challenges. It was developed by Emil Durkheim in a classic lesson about suicide. Moving towards the center of the continuum /continuity we can find an active, good adjustments, so sensitive to the demands of emotional feelings of ambition, love, sympathy, shame, envy, hero worship, and sometimes cruelty. He learned his role in the social system and seek to fulfill the role expectations to be the best of his knowledge. He responded and responded. He developed a general social status better as status-specific status in the social system. He became involved in various roles.
In another distinction from vary  unity is non-sosialization or better, not completed or insufficiency socialize. The most famous example of children who grew up from the alienation is Feral children, often referred to as “wolf children” or “wild child”. Now the wild child/wolf is not found in school but the subject relates to the discussions of socialization. Considered a child has been raised by animals. More fantasy than fact fiction written about this child. Ogburn made an inquiry about rumors of Indian children who are required to return home to his house after being taken to a cave by wolves and lived with them for four and a half years. Rumors are going, when the child is found he has not tamed, could not speak, drink water like a wolf, and have other habits such as wolves. During the child is lost and eventually returned to his parents, the story of doing something with the same socializing wolf really pure myth and treated as such by Ogburn.
Perhaps the most famous story about the “wolf boy” is about two other Indian children, Amala and Kamala. Based on reports, the two children were observed to bring the wolf den and their mates. Age of oldest child estimated to be about eight years and the youngest about one and a half years. They have both, moves  and stroked hair and ran the four legs. They were taken by Rev.JAl Singh to Midnapore Orphan Foundation is managed by Singh and his wife. Ten months later the youngest child died. Singh reported explicitly in the process of socialization of Kamala. He lived with Singh till the age of sixteen years, until the report continues.
When I first discovered the children in a state of fear sits  together and face the wall, Kamala could smell the food on long distance compared to other ordinary people do. He ran on four legs and lap milk like a wolf. He has a voracious appetite and often devour dead chicken. He gave little response to humans. First vowel sound very incubate and roaring.
Having lived with Singh, the process of socialization within humans began to show results, and Kamala’s personality began to grow. Approximately nine months about Kamala began to take food from the hands of Mrs Singh. He learned to accept other children and respond to their presence. After about four years he has developed a simple vocabulary. He developed his personality and his behavior became polite. At the end of the eighth in a family environment, Kamala has been imitating nature of the human personality and behavior. Whatever the facts or the myths of Amala and Kamala, it is an interesting report of socialization.
More important than the report/story of a child’s scandalous that the wolf education and sociology students have been documented and well  authenticity of the alienated child. David has reported two instances of Anna and Isabelle.
Anna is a child born outside marriage, birth and even her presence was not acknowledged by the mother-in-law. Anna was exiled in the upstairs room only with food and attention just enough to make her survive. She received little affection from her presence. She placed and kept in a very long period of time that tends to jeopardize the condition of sleep a very filthy clothes and dirt on her body. When she was eight years old she was found and removed from the room. She was not able to walk only a few signs of intelligence, only floating stomach, bone-like bodies and expressions with no emotion at all and very different. She could not feed herself and do something that others do the normal age do.
Between the time she was found four and a half years later when she died of jaundice. Anna’s physical health and spiritual development in socialization by playing with dolls, to arrange the cubes and can distinguish the images. She can speak in simple stages. She is clean in his habits and learning to walk. She has lived, at the start of good socializing, though many missed than children who grew up under more normal conditions.
In case of Isabelle, she is a bit different. When found she was aged six and a half years. Like Anna, she too is a child born outside marriage and sequestered in a dark room since birth. Her mother is deaf and mute push her more isolated. The mother uses body language as a method of communication interaction. She’s taking care of her and they both spend time in isolation together, she did not develop her speaking skills in isolation box, but learning to communicate with body language as her mother taught her. When found a doll she was making a sound. Her experience in learning to speak is in itself an interesting story.
Malnutrition and sunlight has led to her contracting rickets causing a dangerous weakness and bend his legs. This condition is a burden for him to walk using a cane to walk. Isabelle frightening human, no doubt, for she relates with her mother already done. Thisit is very possible that little fear instilled by her mother. Most of her behavior is a characteristic of deaf person, it shows us the experience of socializing with his mother who was deaf and mute.
After she was taken out of isolation, under the skilled program and systematic training, she learned more quickly than children who are below it. After two months of language training she could make a sentence. After seven months she has been able to develop a vocabulary of fifteen hundred words to words. Her IQ has increased in one and a half years of practice, and he also achieved a normal weight for age. She also entered the school and participate and show progress like everyone else got. Though late in the process of accelerated learning and socialization under the guidance and training there are facts or evidence that she has a higher IQ than her, although she did not live long enough to develop his IQ is more prominent.
Although the two previous cases give a fair picture of the serious problem of lack of socialization and the socialization process of people are alienated when it found, students who are interested may wish to proceed to things more deeply. It must also in clasification that some mental disorders and psychological weak-thinking-not as social skills are like most normal people do.

Conditioning to socialize
Writing about socializing very much but the research is not conclusive and sometimes contradictory. Yet this topic is important and is something useful. This subject has been introduced briefly in the above explanation. Education is a large area for learning and poorly implemented in the control group of non-social development. This assessment is focused on socialization.
As we have stressed, the normal development of human physical simulations and also ask for social contact and mental stimulation. Previously we just learn the mental superiority of man and its influence. The capacity of the human skull to 1,500 cm3, while the chimpanzee skull approximately exceeding 450 cm3. We can indicate that a man can transmit what they has learned in verbal and other symbolic. Interaction between people is essentially a symbol of human. Eventhough character has a number of biological factors such as hunger and sexual relationships and, therefore, the condition by both the socialization and cultural nature.
In another chapter we have studied the benefits of human anatomy such as the standing posture, bipedal locomotion and hand function. These qualities affect the development of human culture, learning and socialization.
Besides the physical characteristics of humans, humans can be regarded as a high level of social beings, and he can only be understood in their social relations. Humans are basically selfish besides intelligence. If we try to visualize the life of a creature called man on the old stone age, we realize that the only group that can co-operation to obtain the necessary animals and ward off enemies like tigers.

Biological and psychological encouragement of social behavior
In the discussion of social behavior, social psychologists with a thorough opinion about the underlying physiological and psychological part of human behavior. Newcomb suggested three basic skills that affect human social behavior.
First, the ability to defend itself, with the understanding will become sensitive to the lack of environmental conditions where they lives depend. If we are not disturbed by the excessive heat and cold, or by hunger, we will not respond to the environment all contribute to our lives.
Second, the ability to respond when there is interference, if the baby can not suck, swallow and breathe, then he will not be able to live.
Third, the ability to learn, which is derived from experience. Although we have been able to survive without the capacity to learn, this is very important for us to adjustment and proficiency in distinguishing human behavior.
Several years earlier, in The Unadjusted Girl, WIThomas emphasize that in all behavior is actors ‘definition of situation’ which affect behavior. He also developed the familiar four requirements, namely the desire to gain new experience, the desire to secure, the need for response and desire to get praise (recognition) as a motivation in human behavior.
Klinerberg then describes in weight in the writings of anthropology, sociology, and psychology, and developed a classification of motivations that form the basis of bio-social psychology to social behavior. All were prepared according to the continuum “dependency”.
Thomas is the first thesis, motivation is absolutely dependent on the basis of psychology and a universal quality. It consists of hunger, thirst, need to rest, sleep, insisted clean, also the activities and aesthetic value.
Second, the motivation which has bases in psychology but which contain individual exceptions. It consists of sex, desire spoiled, and things like self-centered maintenance centrized.
Third, the motivation which indirectly is the basis of psychology that happens with great frequency but has a dependency since they have an exclusion in society and among individuals. These include the level of aggressiveness, assertiveness self-praise and maybe.
Fourth, motivation is not known but the psychological bases occur in several other frequencies due to a general social pattern or as a means to end in a practical way satisfaction. Motivation is not hanging is essentially grouping, motivation paternal, maternal pre-motivation, motivation, compassion, greed and self-compliance.
In other level, Maslow has set up a hierarchy of motivation, a little more social in nature, which form the basis of opinion for social behavior that is inherent with the above explanation. First, physiological needs like hunger, thirst, sex, physical activity. Second, security requirements including security from physical and psychological harm. Third, the need to have and love (compassion) includes links to provide feedback, compassion, and the nature of the affiliation. Fourth, the need for appreciation seen from the desire of all people for the assessment of a stable and good to their own conclusions about self-respect and appreciation from other people. And fifth, Actualization describe fusion or the top of the other needs in the desire / passion for self-realization or fulfillment (fulfilment) from one of total capacity (total).

After indicating human needs more than mere survival needs to fully participate in human activities and to participate actively take part in human experience fully Hollander argued about “commonalities.”
In Hollander’s thesis (which is also inherent to the various previous thesis) says humans need social ties and identification but also the identity of identity. People need regularity, information and experience but also an opportunity to experiment with the ability to move and that they has  in self among interaction with the environment and the desire to obtain a new experience.
This summary indicates that the vast human potential to develop a broad range of behaviors through informal learning, socialization, and formal education. We should explore the full potential of this. We also should emphasize one point how the physical obstacles to build a compensation which has serious effects on these barriers.
Blindness can lead to more sensitive sense of taste and good memory for a fact, event, and people. Heart disease patients may learn to live with their  condition and has not been able to do their daily work properly. Parents are slowly declining in physical acumen to continue learning and working though the process takes more time. Unrushedness can form a routine task and make a good life. With the input received, unrushedness can access a lot of subjects and opportunities in the cultural heritage which has more blessings. Literally someone says, “The machine has a fool in his first chance to be become a gentle.” Also, we would add, “machinery and technology in the new century artists and creative people do not suffer.”
So that children can socialize, there are three necessary conditions. First should be a continuous interaction, the environment where they can socialize. Second, the child has the capability of biological descent. If the child is somewhat disturbed mind or suffering from serious mental disorders, social skills will be very difficult even impossible. Third, a child needs a ‘human nature’, the ability to form emotional relationships with others and to experience such feelings of love, sympathy, shame, envy, pity, and awe. Each of these conditions is a significant need for a fix point far as the basic background material for understanding socialize.
What may not be important in a culture can be very important to the other. For example, in the Iroquois dream culture plays a significant role in influencing attitudes. This may be not important in most cultures, especially the State capitalistic culture.
Association, the same as studying at the school, a reflection of the habits of kinship systems, institutions, and overall culture of the people. Jewish children socialize with characteristics typical Jewish family. They’ll know a lot about the Jewish faith when enters school. The child will reflect the values ​​and thinking about the social class where they was when he entered the school or when he enters preschool program group. Children will learn a lot from the plantation life of gardening, about the animals and plant the corn, when they entered the school. If the child is a boy he would know that in American culture they will be responsible for the lives of his family. They will know that in American society there are many ways to distinguish people into a group of sex, age, class, race, and religion.
American children from middle-class happy to socialize with one’s interests, and this is not the expenditure of togetherness and solidarity of the American public. He will come to know even before school that where democracy is a concern that is the price of individual citizens and one person one vote is the standard.
In fact perhaps the opposite is the socialization of Chinese children. Education to serve the interests of Mao leaders could be the most important. Individual attention within reach and develop frequent as bourgeois egoism, like someone who assess the system filled by materalistic virusses. American children often socialize with the upper class of affluent places the goods, but children are aware that China is a selfish capitalist and bourgeois lifestyle.
Cera Du Bois, an anthropologist in a discussion about the precious values ​​of American culture, an indication of the four most important premise that is characteristic of the American middle class value system. The universe is to be understood in a mechanistic, humans are the rulers, human beings are equal, and the last human being is perfect.

Socializing social system
Social system characterized from forms between someone’s relationship that has continuity. Loomis indicated how to maintain the interaction to develop uniformity. Like how they regularly and systematically to serve something, it can be recognized as a social system. Because social systems are combined the various parts and functions, it is called the process of social structure. Sociology, like other sciences, to discuss with the orderliness or diversity including the facts of the phenomenon, and also appeared in the social system.
Social system has an important role in the process of socializing. Family, as a social system, transmits to the child segments of the broader culture, as cultures that have specific characteristics and patterns of a family. Families have many uses and benefits in the process of learning and socializing, as long as they pay attention to the child, the parents of prestige, and the repetition of experience and behavior when at home, all these things create an effective media family to socialize.
This fact is elaborated in the discussion of ‘Family has a media education. ” Schools usually transmit knowledge, attitudes and behaviors, and skills, and the more varied and systematic behavior that touches an aspect of culture that the family did not have, especially athletics, algebra, grammar and the subject field. The same group has an important function of socialization. So they compete with families and schools for the education and loyalness time education. At the moment the intention of the group targets the same process of socializing with family and school conflicts. When this happens a lot of problems could develop among families, schools and peer groups.
Mass media for communication is important to socialize. Because of the visual, verbal, and vote for the stimulus of the mass media, and the status of a person who show the mass media, and mass media to meet much more important role in the process of socializing when the present generation than previous generations.
In addition to the family and school, before alluded to, all other institutions play an important role in complex social skills. This is especially true of the church, government, economy and to the title level, scientists and institutions.
Whatever the source, the model’s behavior is important in the process of socializing. Family members often act to be an example for their children. The youngest child can irritated behavior from their parents.

SIGNIFICANT ASPECTS IN socializing
From our discussion on the significance of socialization to a role for the development of potential psychological and social interaction is the reader has the overall governance of social science and the process is the exchange of such cultural messages. Some influence for young children could be important in everyday life.
The important thing is, first, self-development. At birth the authenticity of nature begin to grow into human nature, human nature mentioned that the childs are capable of developing it themselves. He became alert of the various responses of others, in the characteristic itself, and to effect a response to the behavior to others. Because it is so sensitive young people have the possibility of conditions being. However, the real impact of the conditions of socialism and education begins at birth and the   relationship that developed between the members of the two children and their mothers and others who care for him.
Rose indicated stages of the process of socializing when small with three phases namely: Learning with conditioning exercises and error, based on behavioral development background as a child, and lastly, the ability to interpret for the application for himself, for the objects, to situations and to other people .
The second thing, Status and development regulations. Studying the status and rules are part of the social process. Children learn the position and regulatory status they occupied in the family and became customary in the regulation and relationship status and in fact both regulation and the status may change as the set of maturity. Ceremonial exchange of the value of a school and the level of the other and from childhood to youth and from youth to adulthood. Sometimes need to be considered and influence regulatory changes and status. Ceremonial exchange in modern society is an introduction to the report, certificate behavior, graduation exams, continued in the role of youth organizations, such as yelling, persat-parties, enhanced withdrawal of education, drive a car and said the legal majority with the rights, including additional privileges. The beginning of the ceremony is done with care is an authentic sign of ceremonial exchange in a simple society. An example is the Indian Ciricahua introduce the exchange of the girls into the adult women in a ceremony with the action carefully into her adulthood. Opler sees Indians as a sign of a speaker’s words, “We think of life for women as an obstacle out of the parts one is the girl, that the young girl, that is the middle age and old age. Music took him past them. The first song describes the homes and sacred ceremonies. Then the second song illustrate the flowers and objects moving. This is to place his youth and as a song to pass the girls grow up and reach old age. ”
Regulation act adalan how one’s behavior in the position of a status that caused and not caused. Regulation of hope is to expect the actions in different status. Every individual has the general status and a special status. The kids at school have student status and the status of children in the house. And maybe a variation of the status of the other and lights rules for extra-class activities and group gatherings. As an adult child to change rules in line with its status. Senior status is higher than the layman. Status of adolescents is usually provided by an independent regulator and approved members of the Commons was not selected from a younger age. Regulation of conflicts usually arise when parents, principles, teachers, and organizations have regulations that different and much of a difference teaching the rules. The socialization process it perfectly and more software as a rule of hope. Family and cultural communities are very expert in determining the children and young people and sometimes parents who are frustrated in the process of socialization.
Third is the symbolism. With a symbol of learning and education, the ability to be higher in human development. Humans can communicate and create a source of interpretation of those events, objects, situations, and behavior. SD explained the equipment symbol learning in subjects such as arithmetic, writing, reading, and basic knowledge. Special symbols learned in chemistry, physics, and mathematics at the middle school and academy level. Verbalization affects language and symbols learned in the home to school. Clearly associated with the concept of development. Value for money can be learned this means playing with honesty and cheating part of learning.
How one understands the rules and regulations of anticipation. In relation to these concepts and how one’s behavior is very important symbol. In social relationships, how a friendship or a symbol of devotion is very important. Finally, recording in progress through school teacher makes a symbol system.
Symbols signified because society gives meaning to them, because they are important in communication and in patterns of interaction. Children regularly play with imagination objects in the artificial world of a living child. Life full of symbols and symbols of children’s behavior. While in young lives and old as a symbol of their God and learn to follow the pattern of their symbols.
There are levels of abstraction in the symbol. A cross as a symbol can be more easily recognized than the chemical or its structure model of an atom. Symbols mean a wedding ring is more easily understood than Greek symbol of immortality home. Because marriage rings easier in a cultural intelligibility. The symbols also vary and complexs.  A flag can mean more than an atractive invasion object. A scout should be a sign of loyalty to home and country. Being a soldier returning from war as a symbol of military strength, virility, status, morale, and satisfaction.